Fellas, don’t suddenly decide to remember her the very moment she finally forgets you. Let her go & let her be. ~ TheSingleWoman™
It has been a week since things fell apart with The Count. I’m sitting here at my computer analyzing it one last time. Last time because I figure a week has gone by now and if in 7 days he didn’t see fit to find time to contact me and iron this out, then perhaps I am the one that needs to rethink the relationship. True love would not let something so ridiculous as a Facebook post that may be seen by a 12yo end a relationship (sorry 99% of those on my Facebook are adults and the post had to do with politics, the Occupy weirdos and as it happened they were topless women). Looking back it may not have been one of my brighter shinning moments when it comes to posting stuff, but gee, really? So I’ve been rethinking everything and going back over the pros and cons of the Count & Me, and analyzing it all.
I need more than a few texts and one day a week to build a relationship. We aren’t talking a “friends with benefits” thing here. This was us, planning a future, talking about a future business, where we’d live, like as in LONG TERM and permanent. Him being busy I understand, but not so busy that the person you claim to love doesn’t take more priority in your life. I’m not unreasonable and really not all that demanding. I saw much more of the ex husband when we were dating (several nights a week and weekends) and he lived 2 hours away! In the beginning, with the Count, in the first few weeks, we did see each other a bit more, but then his job got in the way. SO…is a phone call on the way home from work that taxing? Or one night during the week finding time, like in the beginning of the relationship, to have dinner on that night he wasn’t working?
Meanwhile of the 12 other men I dated off the dating sites, several would have been happy to continue to date, see me far more often and 3 of them would have carted me off to Vegas and got married after the first date. I wouldn’t have done that, my mother didn’t raise a fool, but it would be very nice to have fallen in love with someone that put me just a little bit higher up the priority list, where I did not feel like an after thought. And if you cannot spend more than a day a week with me, then don’t ask me not to date other people. If you don’t have time for a relationship, why in the world were you on a dating site to begin with? Why start something that you know full well you cannot give the time too that it deserves? Why would you get involved and let someone fall in love with you, fall in love with them (or so you say), knowing that you cannot (frankly in this case more like will not) devote the time to them that is needed to grow things?
The statute of limitations for over hauling and putting this relationship back on the rails has run out.
*Note To Self: never again, as the saying goes, make someone in my life a priority that only makes me an option.*
I had to come back and reread this one as I find myself in the same spot. With a mixed bag of feelings, I finally decided to give it another 2 weeks before I say the exact same thing.
I question if I want to spend my time om someone who is insensitive.
2 weeks are not so hard, since I am traveling during this time, so it may help me forget this person 🙂
Hope things will get better and work out in the future. He was probably so not worth it and you’re better off now than if things had progressed more. Good luck!!! 🙂
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