Nana Marti

The Dating Diaries ~ Just Some Thoughts


After 2 failed marriages and getting my heart broken more times than  I care to recall, I take a whole new approach when it comes to relationships.  It’s about ME.  Oh there will be plenty of me that is all about him too, but I have to watch out for me and my now very fragile heart.  I am far too special and precious of a person to just settle.

When I give someone my heart I give them all of me.  If they abuse it in any way I will retreat behind my walls and pull the drawbridge up again and good luck gaining entrance, I’m just not that forgiving for any additional cracks added to my already scarred heart.  And if you suddenly retreat from me over something small like what happened between me and the Count, and have ‘rethink’ us…well I will do the rethinking for you, it’s OVER.  See, when I commit to a relationship, it is 100% find a way to work through the crap that is bound to come up, and retreat is not an option.  If you have to retreat and rethink, you didn’t want this that bad and you were not committed.

I don’t do second chances either, if you walk away once, you are gone for good and dead to me. Harsh? Perhaps it is, but I have to protect what is left of me if I am going to be special to anyone and able to open up completely and commit totally for life.

I follow this awesome chick, Mandy Hale, most commonly known as The Single Woman.  I follow her on Twitter and I read her daily blog which is full of awesome and inspiring advice for single folks.  I also collect sayings I find inspirational or that speak well how I feel.  Below are some of those tweets, quotes, and pictures for the rest of my single followers.  Don’t settle, EVER. We deserve the best because we are the best.  Hold out for it!

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TheSingleWoman™

 Who cares if people are talking behind your back? It just proves you have a life worth talking ABOUT. 🙂
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You deserve someone who jumps fences to be with you..not someone who’s ON the fence about being with you.
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Don’t waste time mourning lost opportunites or missed chances. It it was meant for u, it would have happened.
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“Always take comfort knowing that u are independent & u don’t need to rely on anyone else for your own happiness.”
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As uncertain as the life of a single girl might be..we make our own rules & answer only to ourselves..& that ROCKS.
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If they don’t appreciate your presence, perhaps you should try giving them your absence.
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You should only look back to see how far you’ve come. 🙂
“Pain makes u stronger. Tears make u braver. Heartbreak makes u wiser. So thank the past for a better future!”
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Don’t lose yourself in a relationship. They fell in love with YOU. Not who they wanted or expected you to be.
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Before you settle for “something” or “anything,” allow me to remind you that you’re worthy of EVERYTHING!
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6 comments

  1. I’ve recently got out of a 3yr relationship, he was my first love, first EVERYTHING (except first kiss). I know these upcoming months won’t be easy, esp. in my weakest moments. Because I’ve already gave my heart away, how can I EVER be able to love or to BE (recieve) love?.

    I enjoy reading your posts, this one in particular, it shows that no matter how much damage had done to one’s heart, you’ll survive.

    🙂

    • Yes your heart will mend. Find something or someone to love (a kitten did it for me) so your heart can open up again.

  4. Like I’ve said before, you do some of your best writing when you are irked. Do keep searching for your own inner peace.

    Here’s an idea for a Christmas gift for you…..a flag with “Don’t Tread on Me.”

    All the best!

    • Thanks Joe. I think you might be right about when my best flows. I need to be passionate at the moment over something.

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