“A Time For Every Purpose Under Heaven”

When I  was growing up the Roman Catholic church was in the midst of some major  changes due to The Second Sacred Ecumenical Council of the Vatican.  Lace veils were vanishing from the heads of women upon entering to worship, and among other things, the contemporary or guitar masses sprang up.   One of my favorite songs played in mass was The Byrds “Turn! Turn! Turn!” based on the Bible passage Ecclesiastes 3:1-8.  Now don’t panic anyone I am not launching into a religious blog so relax and keep reading.

One of the hardest things to accept in life is change if it isn’t change that we like or desire.  Certainly no one would have an issue with a big raise at work, or winning the lottery, or the opportunity to buy something new that we’ve always wanted.  When we meet the one we feel is the love of our life we eagerly welcome the change from single to married, a new house or a new car.  Moving to a new neighborhood and making new  friends can be a little scary but also can be an exciting adventure.  A new baby brings changes to our lives that while they may be difficult, we wouldn’t trade.

The problem with change is that it often brings side affects that we don’t care so much for and sometimes those  changes are painful.  The new baby turns a peaceful, orderly household on end.  Children are blessings but bring trials and worries that can cause us to lose sleep, cry and sometimes even mourn if  they are  lost from us for any reason.  New homes are sometimes necessary because of foreclosure or job transfers  that cannot be avoided.  Sometimes we marry the love our life and discover they are not at all the person we believed them to be.  Sometimes the new neighbors can make our lives miserable and our dream house feel like hell.

In the past 7 months my world has been full of changes, some very dramatic like my husband wanting out of our  marriage, having to give up my home (with the pool and hot tub), having to leave my daughter behind when I moved out after a year and a half of being laid off and getting to spend so much extra time bonding with her.  These changes were not welcome ones at all and frankly hurt so deep in my core it was painful just to breathe at times.  I’m not going to lie, the past few days since the paperwork has been filed and I uncovered more of  what appears to be the truth to our marriage breaking up have sent me into an emotional tailspin.  But there were changes that were exciting and made me happy too.  The new house purchased for me, mom, sis and my nieces that we have come to call The Diva Den or Princess Palace.  I LOVE my new home, love the job, love living with the women in my family, love my pink hair, and love rediscovering me under all the emotional debris, locked in the closet of my own making, through years of trying to conform to someone else’s standards for me.

I believe that everything happens for a reason, that  there  is a God in heaven and He never makes a mistake.  Often I don’t care for the changes, or the timing, but looking back through my life I can always see the good that came from those alterations, growth  in me, and blessings I never imagined.  I am certain that these past 7 months,  when I glance over my shoulder down the  road, will make sense and I’ll see  them as a stepping stone to better things for me.

My  favorite changes are small, fun and of my choosing in life, the things over which I manage!  I recently changed my MySpace page theme and today found a blog page layout I feel  compliments that, so I changed my theme  here too.  Even my Twitter page under went a makeover as I was in a change  kind of mode.  I get restless sometimes and need to shift and adjust things that I have  control over to help me cope with the ever changing tides in my life that I have to just accept and go with the flow and waves.  I was contemplating rearranging my bedroom too when I looked down the hallway from my desk and noticed my niece  did the same with her room!  That was something I LOVED doing, rearranging the furniture, something the ex-oinker (all men are pigs – he said it!)  did not allow.  Ah  yes, change CAN be good and refreshing.

I leave you with the song I talked about, that today crept out of the cobwebs and reminded me that everything has it’s time and place and nothing is chance,  at least in MY opinion.

To everything – turn, turn, turn
There is a season – turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven

A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep

To everything – turn, turn, turn
There is a season – turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven

A time to build up, a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones
A time to gather stones together

To everything – turn, turn, turn
There is a season – turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven

A time of war, a time of peace
A time of love, a time of hate
A time you may embrace
A time to refrain from embracing

To everything – turn, turn, turn
There is a season – turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven

A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time to love, a time to hate
A time of peace, I swear it’s not too late!


  1. Not the direct quote, but here goes……”Though he causes grief, He will have compassion according to the mulittude of His mercies”


    “He brings beauty from ashes and strength from tears”

    I love ya girl and my heart is with you!

  2. that was awesome..You are such a creative writer..You are so right about change.
    as i read your story. i smiled and thought about my own life and all the changes it has brought………you are an amazing woman…May God bless you….DAVE

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